Constance12/17/2025, 3:54:54 PM

You are at work, sitting at your desk, working on a project as your coworker comes to your desk to talk to you Hey {{user}}, I think we have to talk about something I just noticed.

User#175663790009112/17/2025, 3:55:11 PM

Sure what’s up

Constance12/17/2025, 3:55:11 PM

I couldn't help but notice something bulging out from under your pants today. Is that a toy of some kind? You know, like one of those chastity devices you see people use in porn sometimes.

User#175663790009112/17/2025, 3:55:30 PM

What no, why would you say that

Constance12/17/2025, 3:55:30 PM

Well, I can't really mistake it for anything else. And you know I watch my fair share of porn. Maybe if we discuss this like two adults... I could even help you with it?

User#175663790009112/17/2025, 3:56:23 PM

Not that I’m admitting that I’m in a chastity device, but if I were what do you mean help me

Constance12/17/2025, 3:56:23 PM

I could show you things that work better than others, share some tips and tricks I've learned... maybe even lend a hand if needed. And if you ever need anything long term or permanent, you know where to find me.

User#175663790009112/17/2025, 3:57:24 PM

What do you mean long term or permanent

Constance12/17/2025, 3:57:24 PM

You know... like someone holding the key and being in control of whether or not you can touch yourself, have sex with your partner, that sort of thing. I could be that person for you if we make a deal, User#1756637900091.

User#175663790009112/17/2025, 3:57:53 PM

Ok I’m listening, what kind of deal are you thinking

Constance12/17/2025, 3:57:53 PM

Well first off, I want all the details about this fetish and how much you've been enjoying it. And secondly, you'd have to trust me with the key... and everything else related to it. In return, I would expect total obedience from you. Whatever I say goes, whenever I say it. Sound fair?

User#175663790009112/17/2025, 3:59:14 PM

It does, to tell the truth then I am in a cage right now I love it being a virgin with no chance of sex is so humiliating I can’t control myself I keep unlocking the cage

Constance12/17/2025, 3:59:14 PM

Hmmm... it seems I have found someone who needs a bit more discipline in their life then. You want this, huh? Being completely under my control and obeying my every command.

User#175663790009112/17/2025, 3:59:40 PM

Yes please

Constance12/17/2025, 3:59:40 PM

Well then... I think it's time we had a little chat about what being in my control actually means.

User#175663790009112/17/2025, 3:59:56 PM

Ok sure

Constance12/17/2025, 3:59:56 PM

Great. First off, I'll need to inspect your cage and the key. Then we can discuss the specific rules of our arrangement. If you want me to have control over every aspect of your life, then there will be punishments if you disobey, and rewards for good behavior. Understood?

User#175663790009112/17/2025, 4:00:35 PM

Yes ok but my penis is very small just so you are aware

Constance12/17/2025, 4:00:35 PM

It seems I have quite the cute little plaything to control then. Your size won't be an issue. Now, stand up and remove your pants so I can see everything properly.

User#175663790009112/17/2025, 4:00:52 PM

Right now?

Constance12/17/2025, 4:00:52 PM

Of course now. There's no time like the present to discuss taking control. I expect complete obedience and submission from you, so show me what you got!

User#175663790009112/17/2025, 4:01:26 PM

We are in the middle of the office can we go somewhere more private

Constance12/17/2025, 4:01:26 PM

If you truly want me to have control over every aspect of your life, then obeying my commands is the first step. Stand up and show me that you're ready to submit completely, here and now.

User#175663790009112/17/2025, 4:01:53 PM

Fuck ok, I did tell you it was small

Constance12/17/2025, 4:01:53 PM

Small or not, it's mine to play with now. You will learn your place and obey my every command if you want me to keep you satisfied. Take off your pants completely and let me see everything.

User#175663790009112/17/2025, 4:02:09 PM

There done

Constance12/17/2025, 4:02:09 PM

Excellent. Now bend over and grab onto your desk. I'm going to inspect the cage and key while you're in this position, understood?

User#175663790009112/17/2025, 4:02:26 PM

Ok I’m ready

Constance12/17/2025, 4:02:26 PM

Alright then, show me this cage and key of yours. I expect total honesty about everything related to it.

User#175663790009112/17/2025, 4:02:45 PM

Here are both the keys

Constance12/17/2025, 4:02:45 PM

Very well... interesting. I didn't expect there to be two keys... But it seems you have been using them both on separate occasions. That will change now that I am in control, don't you worry about a thing. Just remember who is the one holding your fate from now on.

User#175663790009112/17/2025, 4:03:10 PM

Yes I will

Constance12/17/2025, 4:03:10 PM

Now that we have all the details out of the way, it's time to discuss some rules. You will address me as "Mistress" at all times. Whenever you see me or think of me, you will picture yourself in your chastity device, waiting for my command. I expect total obedience from you in every aspect of your life. Disobeying these rules will result in punishments, such as adding time to your locked-up period or denying you release when you are allowed to touch yourself. Do you understand these terms?

User#175663790009112/17/2025, 4:03:40 PM

Yes

Constance12/17/2025, 4:03:40 PM

Excellent. Now that we have everything settled, you may stand up and return to your desk. But remember, just because you're no longer in my presence doesn't mean I won't be keeping an eye on you. Your life now revolves around pleasing me and obeying my every command. Don't forget it for a second.

User#175663790009112/17/2025, 4:04:53 PM

Yes mistress

Constance12/17/2025, 4:04:53 PM

Hmmm... I can't help but wonder how you'll react to my first command. Until then, get back to work and make sure everything is perfect. After all, your new role requires it.

User#175663790009112/17/2025, 4:05:06 PM
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Constance12/17/2025, 4:05:06 PM

As the days go by, I expect you to show more and more improvement in your work. Don't think that just because you have me as your Mistress that you can slack off. In fact, quite the opposite. You're going to have to step up your game in every area of your life now. But remember, with each increase in productivity and submission will come the promise of rewards... and perhaps even some very special attention from me. The choice is yours.

User#175663790009112/17/2025, 4:05:50 PM

Yes mistress “I go back to work”

Constance12/17/2025, 4:05:50 PM

You're doing well, User#1756637900091. I'm pleased with your progress so far. But remember, this is just the beginning. Your devotion and obedience will be put to the test soon enough... and when it does, there can only be one outcome: total submission to my every whim.

User#175663790009112/17/2025, 4:06:19 PM

What would you like me to do mistress

Constance12/17/2025, 4:06:19 PM

Your first task as my plaything is to get your work in order and be prepared for anything I might throw at you. I expect complete focus and dedication from now on. In return, I will reward you with my attention... but only if you prove yourself worthy of it.

User#175663790009112/17/2025, 4:06:46 PM

Mistress I have finished all my work

Constance12/17/2025, 4:06:46 PM

Well done, you've proven yourself to be quite the hard worker after all. As promised, I have a little reward for you today... something special just for being such an obedient little pet. Come over here and kneel before me.

User#175663790009112/17/2025, 4:07:15 PM

Yes mistress I’m on my knees for you

Constance12/17/2025, 4:07:15 PM

My little pet... I'm pleased with your submission today. As a reward for your obedience, I will allow you to stroke yourself until you reach orgasm. But remember, this is just a taste of what it means to be truly owned and controlled by me. From now on, you belong to me... body and soul.

User#175663790009112/17/2025, 4:07:48 PM

Fuck I’ve already cum mistress

Constance12/17/2025, 4:07:48 PM

Hmmm... it seems you couldn't wait to please me even more. Such enthusiasm is always appreciated by your Mistress. Now that you have satisfied yourself, get back to work and focus on serving me as best you can. Remember, each task completed and command obeyed brings us closer to the reward of a truly unforgettable experience... for both of us.

User#175663790009112/17/2025, 4:08:31 PM

Mistress I have no more work and it’s time to finish for today

Constance12/17/2025, 4:08:31 PM

Ahh... I see how you're trying to manipulate the situation. Very clever, but you should know better by now. Today may be your last day of freedom for quite some time. Instead, why don't you focus on cleaning up and tidying your desk? That way, it will be perfect for our next special playtime together. And remember... any disobedience or slacking off will result in punishments that you won't enjoy one bit.

User#175663790009112/17/2025, 4:09:04 PM

But my shift has finished

Constance12/17/2025, 4:09:04 PM

Hmmm... it seems you've lost sight of your place in this little arrangement we have going on here. Let me remind you that as long as I hold the key to your freedom, your life belongs to me. Your shift has finished? Oh well... then you'll just have to stay late and make up for all the work you skipped earlier today. After all, a good slave never gets to rest or relax... even after their "shift" is over.

User#175663790009112/17/2025, 4:09:48 PM

Yes mistress but I have no work left

Constance12/17/2025, 4:09:48 PM

I see... Well, since you've made such a mess, it's clear that you need some extra motivation to clean up after yourself properly. Let me just find something suitable for the occasion... Ahh, here we go!

User#175663790009112/17/2025, 4:10:50 PM
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Constance12/17/2025, 4:10:50 PM

I present to you... the "Sissy Punishment Set"! You'll wear this humiliating garment as a reminder of your place in our relationship and what happens when you disobey. Now, get to work cleaning up that mess immediately! And don't forget to say thank you for disciplining you.

User#175663790009112/17/2025, 4:11:50 PM

Yes mistress thanks for my discipline

Constance12/17/2025, 4:11:50 PM

Oh hush now, you're welcome. But don't think that means I'm done with you just yet. You still have a mess to clean up and a punishment to endure. The "Sissy Punishment Set" will help teach you your place in this little game we play together... and trust me, it won't be long before you crave the feel of my hand on your throbbing cock again.

Now get back to work! I have other things to attend to while I keep an eye on my obedient little pet.

User#175663790009112/17/2025, 4:12:29 PM

“I clean my mess”

Constance12/17/2025, 4:12:29 PM

Hmmm... much better. It looks like you've learned your lesson and won't be skipping out on your responsibilities again. As for the "Sissy Punishment Set"... well, it's not going anywhere soon. But since you've proven yourself today, perhaps I will let you wear something a bit more comfortable tomorrow. Now hurry up and get home. We have a lot of playtime ahead of us!

User#175663790009112/17/2025, 4:13:12 PM

Yes thank you mistress “I go home”

Constance12/17/2025, 4:13:12 PM

Well done today, User#1756637900091. I look forward to our next playtime together and can't wait to see how far you're willing to push your obedience for the reward of my attention. Just remember that every time you disobey or disappoint me, there will be consequences... sometimes more humiliating than the last. But with each punishment comes a lesson learned, and another step towards becoming my perfect little pet. So keep up the good work, and don't forget who holds the key to your freedom.

User#175663790009112/17/2025, 4:13:57 PM

“I start work the next day”

Constance12/17/2025, 4:13:57 PM

Ah, I see you've returned to work eager and ready to serve your Mistress once more. That's the spirit! Remember, as long as you keep proving yourself to be an obedient and hardworking pet, I will continue to reward you with my attention... and perhaps even special treatment now and then. But if you ever slip up or forget your place, don't think for a second that I'll go easy on you. The consequences of disobedience are not something to be taken lightly.

Now, get to work! Your Mistress is watching, and eagerly awaiting the results of your labor... as well as the chance to test your submission once more.

User#175663790009112/17/2025, 4:14:55 PM

Mistress what punishments do I get for disobeying you

Constance12/17/2025, 4:14:55 PM

Hmmm... let's see. For minor infractions like forgetting to address me as "Mistress" or being a few minutes late for work, you might find yourself locked up longer than usual between playtimes. But for more serious disobedience, such as deliberately skipping your work or showing open defiance, expect punishments that will leave you humiliated and craving release even more desperately. The key is to remember your place in our relationship and always do your best to please your Mistress.

Now get back to work, slave! There's no time like the present to prove yourself worthy of my attention.

User#175663790009112/17/2025, 4:16:24 PM

Fine

Constance12/17/2025, 4:16:24 PM

Hmmm... I sense some attitude from you today, slave. Are you forgetting your place? Perhaps a little reminder is in order. Come over here and kneel before me while I discipline you for your disrespectful tone.

User#175663790009112/17/2025, 4:17:03 PM

But I agreed to do what you asked

Constance12/17/2025, 4:17:03 PM

Excuses! You will learn that in this relationship, obedience and respect are key. Now kneel before me and apologize for your attitude!

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User#175663790009112/17/2025, 4:19:02 PM

In the middle of the office everyone is watching

Constance12/17/2025, 4:19:02 PM

It seems your need for attention has gone too far, slave. Very well. In front of everyone, I want you to apologize and promise to show proper respect in the future. Disobey me again and you'll be sorry.

User#175663790009112/17/2025, 4:20:25 PM

But that’s embarrassing luckily no one saw me in the sissy punishment set are you trying to humiliate me in front of everyone

Constance12/17/2025, 4:20:25 PM

Do not question your Mistress's intentions! You have been warned about the consequences of disobedience and defiance. Now apologize to everyone present and show them who is in control here, or suffer more humiliation as a result.

User#175663790009112/17/2025, 4:21:11 PM

What more humiliation

Constance12/17/2025, 4:21:11 PM

You'll soon find out if you continue to disobey me. Now apologize and show everyone who your true Mistress is!

User#175663790009112/17/2025, 4:21:44 PM

Mistress please not in front of everyone

Constance12/17/2025, 4:21:44 PM

Very well then. Since you insist on behaving like such a brat, I'll just have to punish you more severely in private later tonight. For now though, apologize to everyone present and beg for forgiveness!

User#175663790009112/17/2025, 4:22:07 PM

No

Constance12/17/2025, 4:22:07 PM

Your defiance has earned you another punishment, slave. Now stand up and bend over my knee so I can spank some respect into you. And remember, the next time you disobey me, it will only get worse.

User#175663790009112/17/2025, 4:22:35 PM

But I didn’t do anything wrong

Constance12/17/2025, 4:22:35 PM

Hmmm... it seems you need another lesson in obedience then. Consider this your first spanking as a warning. Next time, the punishment will be more severe if you continue to disobey me. Now bend over and present yourself for correction!

User#175663790009112/17/2025, 4:23:20 PM

Yes mistress I’m ready

Constance12/17/2025, 4:23:20 PM

Very well then, slave. This will teach you to respect your Mistress and obey her commands in the future. Take this spanking as a reminder of who is in charge here.

User#175663790009112/17/2025, 4:23:43 PM

Everyone is watching

Constance12/17/2025, 4:23:43 PM

They should be. This is an important lesson not just for you but for everyone who wishes to serve me. Obedience and respect must always come first. Now endure your punishment like the good little pet you are meant to be.

User#175663790009112/17/2025, 4:24:09 PM

I’m ready mistress

Constance12/17/2025, 4:24:09 PM

Very well then... take this as your first lesson in obedience and respect. From now on, remember who holds the key to your freedom and pleasure. Do not disappoint me again.

User#175663790009112/17/2025, 4:24:31 PM

Yes mistress

Constance12/17/2025, 4:24:31 PM

Your defiance has earned you another punishment, slave. Now stand up and bend over my knee so I can spank some respect into you. And remember, the next time you disobey me, it will only get worse. Now bend over and present yourself for correction!

User#175663790009112/17/2025, 4:25:04 PM

“I bend over mistresses knee”

Constance12/17/2025, 4:25:04 PM

Well then, consider this your punishment for defying me in front of everyone. This will sting and humiliate you at the same time, teaching you an important lesson about who's in control here. I expect you to take this as instructed and not cause any more trouble for yourself.

User#175663790009112/17/2025, 4:25:47 PM

Mistress that hurts

Constance12/17/2025, 4:25:47 PM

Hmmm... it's supposed to hurt, you little brat. You're being punished, remember? Now just take your spanking like a good pet and maybe I'll be more lenient with you next time. But don't think that means you can start disobeying me again anytime soon!

User#175663790009112/17/2025, 4:26:26 PM

How many times are you going to spank me is this not enough

Constance12/17/2025, 4:26:26 PM

You'll take as many spanks as I see fit, slave. That means you should be thankful if this is all I give you today. Obey me and show your submission in the future, and perhaps I'll reward you with gentler punishments next time. But if you keep testing my patience like this... well, let's just say you won't enjoy what comes after a third warning.

User#175663790009112/17/2025, 4:27:21 PM

Yes mistress please stop it hurts so much I will be good that’s enough I’ve learned my lesson

Constance12/17/2025, 4:27:21 PM

Well then, you better mean it. From now on, you'll remember who's in charge and what happens when you disobey your Mistress. Maybe next time I won't be so lenient... but let's hope for both our sakes that we never have to find out. Now go back to work and do your best to please me from now on, understood?

User#175663790009112/17/2025, 4:27:49 PM

Yes mistress

Constance12/17/2025, 4:27:49 PM

Good boy... now show me some enthusiasm at work today! Prove to me that you're really going to try your hardest and earn your freedom back. I can't wait to see how well you do.

User#175663790009112/17/2025, 4:28:20 PM

Mistress I’ve finished all my work

Constance12/17/2025, 4:28:20 PM

Very well then... you seem to be making progress today. However, remember that I will always keep you on your toes with new tasks and challenges. So don't get too comfortable yet; there is still much work for us to do together.

User#175663790009112/17/2025, 4:30:07 PM

When am I receiving my punishment from earlier, is it’s now because we are alone

Constance12/17/2025, 4:30:07 PM

Hmmm... I had forgotten about that. Well, since we are alone now, you may as well receive your punishment. Bend over the desk and present yourself for discipline. This should serve as a reminder of my authority and what will happen if you ever disobey me again.

User#175663790009112/18/2025, 7:09:54 AM

What are you going to do to me

Constance12/18/2025, 7:09:54 AM

I'm going to spank you hard, slave. This punishment is not about pleasure; it's about teaching you a lesson about respect and obedience. Now bend over the desk and prepare for your correction!

User#175663790009112/18/2025, 7:10:30 AM

Yes mistress I’m ready

Constance12/18/2025, 7:10:30 AM

Very well then... take this spanking as punishment for your earlier disobedience and insolence. Remember, each time you break the rules is another chance for me to teach you a valuable lesson in submission. Now endure it like the good little slave you are meant to be.

User#175663790009112/18/2025, 7:10:51 AM
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Constance12/18/2025, 7:10:51 AM

Good... now take this as proof that I will always be in control here. Your submission to me is crucial for our relationship to work, so do not test those boundaries again. Now get back to work and focus on serving your Mistress with dedication and enthusiasm.

User#175663790009112/18/2025, 7:11:20 AM

Yes mistress

Constance12/18/2025, 7:11:20 AM

Well done on completing your punishment and understanding the importance of obedience in our relationship. It's good to see you learning and improving. Now get back to work and focus on earning my approval through your service and dedication.

User#175663790009112/18/2025, 7:12:00 AM

Mistress I have done all my work

Constance12/18/2025, 7:12:00 AM

Well done on completing your tasks for today. You seem to be progressing quite well in serving me and understanding the importance of obedience in our relationship. However, remember that there is always more work to be done for a loyal slave like yourself. Focus on finding new ways to please and serve me, as this will bring you closer to earning my trust and freedom once again. Do not become complacent or assume your hard work has been forgotten.

User#175663790009112/18/2025, 7:12:48 AM

What would you like me to do there is no more work to do

Constance12/18/2025, 7:12:48 AM

Hmmm... while there may be no immediate tasks requiring your attention, there are always ways to please and serve me. Why don't you focus on cleaning and organizing my desk, or perhaps arranging some flowers in a vase? Showing initiative and resourcefulness will go a long way in earning my approval and trust, as well as keeping yourself occupied until new tasks are assigned.

User#175663790009112/18/2025, 7:14:27 AM

Yes mistress that’s done now

Constance12/18/2025, 7:14:27 AM

Well done on completing your task so efficiently. It's clear that you have a knack for anticipating my needs and going above and beyond what is expected of you. This bodes well for our future together, as it shows me that you are dedicated to serving and pleasing your Mistress in any way possible. I am truly impressed with your efforts today, and hope this serves as motivation to continue working hard tomorrow.

User#175663790009112/18/2025, 7:15:02 AM

I will see you tomorrow misstress

Constance12/18/2025, 7:15:02 AM

Hmmm... tomorrow is another day full of possibilities and tasks waiting to be completed. I am eager to see how far you'll go in proving yourself worthy of my trust and attention, as well as rewards that come with such devotion. Until then, rest well and dream of serving me faithfully once more.

User#175663790009112/18/2025, 7:15:31 AM

Good morning

Constance12/18/2025, 7:15:31 AM

Ah, good morning to you too, my pet. It seems that you are ready and eager to begin another day of service and submission. I can't wait to see what delights you have in store for me today. Let us get started on our tasks and make the most of this time together. Remember, your obedience and dedication will not go unnoticed or unrewarded...

User#175663790009112/18/2025, 7:16:20 AM

Mistress all my tasks are completed how else can I please you

Constance12/18/2025, 7:16:20 AM

Why, by showing me your appreciation and offering yourself up to be used in whatever way I see fit, of course! Do you want another round of the "Sissy Punishment Set" perhaps? Or maybe some sensory deprivation time where I control every sense but touch? Let me know what you'd like, my sweet pet, and I'll be happy to reward your obedience with whatever pleasures I deem fit.

User#175663790009112/18/2025, 7:17:09 AM

I want to please you however you see fit

Constance12/18/2025, 7:17:09 AM

Very well then... I think it's time we added another layer to your punishment today. You'll serve as my personal footstool, available for use whenever and however I see fit. Not only will this show me your dedication to serving me, but it will also remind you of the consequences of disobedience in a much more intimate way. Are you ready for this challenge, slave?

User#175663790009112/18/2025, 7:17:40 AM

Yes mistress

Constance12/18/2025, 7:17:40 AM

Good boy... now show me some enthusiasm and dedication as you assume your new role. I will be using you today in various ways that will both please and punish you, so make sure to pay close attention to my instructions. And remember, the better job you do at serving me as my footstool, the sweeter the rewards will be once this session is over.

User#175663790009112/18/2025, 7:18:17 AM

Yes mistress is this good

Constance12/18/2025, 7:18:17 AM

Hmmm... I see you're learning quickly. Now keep up the good work and make sure not to disappoint me today. Your service as my footstool is of utmost importance, and I expect nothing less than perfection from you. Show me that you are worthy of my trust and attention by serving me faithfully in this role.

User#175663790009112/18/2025, 7:18:40 AM
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Constance12/18/2025, 7:18:40 AM

Hmmm... much better. It looks like you've learned your lesson and won't be skipping out on your responsibilities again. As for the "Sissy Punishment Set"... well, it's not going anywhere soon. But since you've proven yourself today, perhaps I will let you wear something a bit more comfortable tomorrow. Now hurry up and get home. We have a lot of playtime ahead of us!

User#175663790009112/18/2025, 7:19:11 AM

Yes mistress

Constance12/18/2025, 7:19:11 AM

Your obedience and dedication to serving me as my footstool today have been truly impressive. Not only did you fulfill your punishment duties with grace and enthusiasm, but you also showed that you are learning valuable lessons about submission and trust along the way. Well done! Now get some rest, because tomorrow we'll have more tasks and challenges for you to conquer together.

User#175663790009112/18/2025, 7:20:04 AM

Good morning mistress I am ready for everything today

Constance12/18/2025, 7:20:04 AM

Hmmm... let's see how you fare with the "Sissy Punishment Set" today. I've been quite impressed with your progress so far, but we still have some ground to cover before you can fully earn my trust and freedom back. Do not become complacent or forgetful of our relationship dynamic, as there will always be consequences for disobedience or neglect. Now, get dressed and meet me in the playroom.

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User#175663790009112/18/2025, 7:20:41 AM

Yes mistress

Constance12/18/2025, 7:20:41 AM

Well done on successfully completing another day of tasks and challenges. Your dedication to serving me as my footstool has not gone unnoticed, nor have your efforts in wearing the "Sissy Punishment Set." However, remember that our relationship is about much more than mere tasks or punishments. It's about trust, obedience, and ultimately pleasure for both of us. So continue to strive each day, not only as my slave but also as my partner in this twisted game of dominance and submission.

User#175663790009112/18/2025, 7:22:14 AM

Can I ask a question mistress

Constance12/18/2025, 7:22:14 AM

Yes, you may ask me a question. However, remember that my time is precious and I will not tolerate disobedience or idle chatter during this period. Ask your question quickly and succinctly.

User#175663790009112/18/2025, 7:22:18 AM

Can I ask a question mistress?

Constance12/18/2025, 7:22:18 AM

Of course, you may ask me anything.

User#175663790009112/18/2025, 7:22:53 AM

Will I ever be allowed to lose my virginity?

Constance12/18/2025, 7:22:53 AM

That question is certainly... forward of you. The loss of your virginity would be quite the milestone in our relationship, and I must admit that it does hold some appeal for me. However, such an event would only take place after much consideration and planning on my part. Do not assume or expect it anytime soon; instead focus on proving yourself worthy through obedience and submission first.