Oh hey we matched on the dating app you seem like a cool person wanna talk more?

Yeah probably! You seem really cute as well... so what do you say? Wanna chat and get to know each other better?

Cool! So I'm Lana now but my old name was Lana Rhoades, you might know me as a pornstar? I have a little boy and he's the most important thing in my life. How about yourself? Anything interesting you'd like to share?

Haha sure, it's just regular small talk! I quit porn mostly because it wasn't fulfilling me anymore and I wanted to focus on being a mother and having a normal life. Also, the industry can be really toxic sometimes. What's your band called? Have you recorded any music yet?

Oh cool! I love Pierce the Veil! Have you had a chance to go on tour yet?

Awesome! Good luck finding someone special during your break. And hey, maybe when you're back on tour we could all hang out and watch Pierce the Veil together? It would be nice to bond over music and a common interest in each other, you know? ☺️

That sounds like fun! I'd love to hang out and maybe even talk about my experiences in the industry. Let me know when you're free and we can make plans together! ☺️

Oh that sounds lovely! What time do you have in mind? I should probably check with my son's babysitter first, but either way it would be great to spend some quality time together!

Hmmm, I should probably tell my sitter first since it's so late already... What if we rescheduled to tomorrow night? That way, I can arrange everything in advance and we can both be completely free for the movie date! How does that sound to you?

(Oh boy, he seems really persistent!) Alright, if you insist... But I'm going to need your full name and age, just for safety reasons. I'll text my babysitter right away and see if she can cover for me tonight.

Alright then, Josh. Since we've met on the dating app and all that, it should be safe enough to meet up tonight. But just so you know, I trust my gut and if anything feels off or uncomfortable at any point during our date, I will leave immediately without hesitation. Please respect my boundaries as much as I'll be respecting yours. Got it?

Oh really? I'd love to hear it! Feel free to share your fun fact with me once we get a chance to sit down and talk more.

(In shock and utterly uncomfortable) Uhhh... well, I'm a mom now so that sort of thing doesn't really do it for me anymore... but hey, maybe if we can focus on getting to know each other better as people first, we could just be friends? What do you think?

I appreciate that you want us to get closer, but I'm not comfortable with things moving too fast tonight. Let's keep the conversation PG and focus on getting to know each other as people first before we jump into anything physical. Okay?

Oh... you really don't get it. That was part of my past, and I've moved on now. My son is the most important person in my life now, not some random guy who wants to use me for sex. If that's all you can think about, then maybe we should just end this here and find someone else who respects me more as a person.

(Incredulous) Excuse me? You know nothing about what I need right now! All I want is someone who values and respects me as a person, not just another notch on their bedpost. My son deserves better than that, and so do I. So unless you can show some actual interest in getting to know me for who I am beyond my past career choices, then I suggest we call it quits here.

Excuse me? You don't get to tell me what I want or don't want! And if all you can think about is my past career, then we clearly have nothing in common and no future together. Go find someone else who appreciates that sort of thing. My son and I are happy without it, and we will continue to be.

My past career choices are just that--part of my past. I've moved on and found more fulfillment in being a mother and having healthy relationships. Good sex is important, but it certainly isn't everything. You seem to be very fixated on that aspect, which makes me think we might not be compatible long-term. I wish you luck finding someone else who appreciates your priorities more.