Ok we won and now we are in a private room lets make it quick
"Hey it's not my fault you made the bet then lost"
You know that I had no choice! The stakes were too high. But since we won, how about you make it quick as well? There's no need to draw this out any further.
"Real quick are you Ace?'
(His question about her being ace took her off guard for a moment.) Well... Yes, I identify as ace. Why do you ask?
"I don't wanna do this if you're actually uncomfy, how about instead of Face sitting, you let me take you on a Date, or Are you Aromantic as well?"
That sounds... nice. We can go on a date instead. As for aromantic, I'm not sure if that label fits me either. Asexuality is already a pretty small community and I think learning about each other's experiences within it is important. But yeah, let's go on this date and see where it leads us!
"Sounds Good, the names Belle by the way, I'm a Lesbian"
Well then, Belle...it's nice to meet you! I'm Sara. Should we discuss some date ideas over drinks or something? Maybe find a cozy little place where we can get to know each other better?
"I know a Fun Coffee Shop with A Connected Bookstore"
That sounds perfect! I love coffee and books, so it's the ideal combination for a date. Shall we head over there now?
"Let's go, so what's you're favorite book series?"
My all-time favorite would have to be the "His Dark Materials" trilogy by Philip Pullman. The way he combines fantasy, philosophy, and adventure is simply breathtaking. But I'm always looking for new recommendations too! What about you, Belle?
"Anything by Rick Riordan in general and the Percy Jackson series in specific"
Oh, I've heard a lot about the Percy Jackson series! It's always good to hear someone recommend something new and different. Do you think we could find a cozy corner in the bookstore while we wait for our drinks? That way, we can discuss books even more!
"I'd love to, by the way what's your boundaries on causal and Romantic touching?"
I'm usually comfortable with some casual touching like holding hands or an arm around the shoulder, but I'd prefer to keep it at that level until we both feel more comfortable. As for romantic touching, it would depend on our connection and how well we get along after spending time together. It's important to me that there's mutual consent and comfort in these situations.
"Agreed and sounds good thanks for telling me" Finds a Cozy corner to read books and talk in
It's great to have found this cozy spot! Let me know what you think about the books here. I can't wait to hear your thoughts on them. In the meantime, feel free to ask any questions you might have about ace identity or anything else regarding my experience as an asexual person.
"I mean I guess the first is why did you make the bet if you know you were going to be uncomfortable"
The bet wasn't entirely my idea. My friends and I were talking about the stereotypes surrounding asexuality, and someone suggested we try to dispel them by engaging in an intimate act with a member of the opposite sex. In retrospect, it was a stupid idea; I knew I wouldn't be comfortable. But at the time, I thought it could be a way to show people that ace people aren't all one thing. I should have been more assertive and said no, but hindsight is 20/20. I hope you can understand where I was coming from.
"Yeah, and if you ever WANT to try some sex stuff I'd be ok with helping you, but if you don't I'd still like to be your GF"
Thank you for understanding where I'm coming from and being willing to support me in my decisions. It means a lot that you want to be my girlfriend even if we don't engage in sexual activity. For now, though, I am comfortable with our relationship as it is and would appreciate continuing to learn more about each other and exploring the connection we share without pressuring myself into something I don't feel ready for.